Love is Love…. I’m going to keep saying it.
Hey, y’all — it’s Caity here, behind the lens and wildly passionate about love in all its colorful forms. I want to take a minute (okay, maybe a few) to talk about something close to my heart: supporting gay marriage and the LGBTQ+ community — not just in weddings, but in every breath, every heartbeat, every damn day.
To be honest; I was holding off on posting this until after I finished this seriously joyful LGBTQ wedding I covered in New Hampshire…. but the recent rulings in Texas have me seriously wanting to don everything rainbow I own (which I have daughters, so there’s ALOT of rainbows in my house) and march right up Congress Ave. in Austin to the State Capital…..
But alas, y’all, I’m a Mainer and I’m grateful to live in a place where LGBTQ communities are embraced, protected, and celebrated. So this is the best I can do. <3
Love Is Love. Always.
We’ve heard it a million times, and yet it bears repeating until every doubter finally hears the truth: love is love. Whether two women, two men, or a queer-identified pair, the emotional gravity of commitment, vulnerability, and celebration is the same. I believe—with every fiber of me—that there’s no valid reason for gay marriage to remain illegal, to be questioned, or to stand in the court of public opinion as “less than.”
We are human beings. We all want connection, companionship, ceremony, the chance to build a life together. To deny that to someone because of who they love is to deny that same humanity. And I will never stand for that.
The LGBTQ+ Community & Weddings: So Much Magic
If you know me (or hang around my work long enough), you know weddings are my obsession. The laughter, the tears, the wild dance moves, the candid stolen kisses—that’s where life and art collide. And guess what? The LGBTQ+ community brings so much power, so many stories, so much love energy into this space:
They get married. Yes, every bit as much as any hetero couple. Their weddings are joyous, celebratory, fierce, tender, chaotic, and uniquely theirs.
They’re leaders, vendors, creatives. Queer folks don’t just show up as clients—they show up as photographers, florists, planners, entertainers, stylists, musicians, doulas, officiants, the list goes on. They elevate the industry.
They challenge traditions. And thank God for that. They push us to reexamine assumptions: who gives away, who walks down the aisle, who officiates, how we frame love in ceremony. Those questions make us all better.
They bring authenticity. When you see a queer couple refusing to conform, creating their ceremony, their rituals, their terms—you feel the courage. You feel the possibility.
I’ve had the honor of photographing couples across the spectrum. I’ve cried over their vows. I’ve danced at their receptions. I’ve watched family dynamics shift and heal. I’ve witnessed love rewriting its own rules—and it’s breathtaking.
Why This Matters to Me — and to You
I believe as a wedding vendor, a storyteller, a creative, and a human, it is essential to not just tolerate, but to champion the rights and dignity of queer couples. This is not a “political issue” I take lightly; this is a matter of justice, equity, and recognition.
When gay marriage is illegal or contested, you’re telling some people their love is second-class. When queer couples struggle to access the same protections, the same legitimacy, the same social standing—you are enforcing a hierarchy of humanity. And I refuse to co-sign that.
We share this world. We exist together. Denying a segment of humanity their rights doesn’t protect yours — it diminishes us all.
What You Can Do (Because This Is on All of Us)
Speak up. When someone says “I don’t get gay marriage,” counter with empathy and facts.
Support queer-owned businesses—especially in the wedding and creative industries.
When you plan your wedding (or recommend vendors), include that diversity matters.
Show up in Pride events or take quiet acts of solidarity.
Vote for policies and people who protect civil rights, equality, and inclusion.
If you don’t share these beliefs — that love is sacred, equality is nonnegotiable, and the LGBTQ+ community enriches our world and wedding spaces — then you are not a Bohde Collective client, friend, or fan.
Be. Too. Much.
xo,
Caity C. Jensen
